Tuesday, April 7, 2015

It is more important to be nice

I loved this article by . I shortened it a bit to share with you. Enjoy.

1. Smile more. Be genuine. Let your happiness shine through on your face. When something amuses, awakens or pleases you, show it with a wide, toothy smile.

2. Say please and thank you. Manners require time, and nothing is more vulgar than haste. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

3. Meditate on the monkey mind. We all have it. Jumping around, swinging from the trees, stealing fruit, unable and unwilling to be still or quiet. Using our mental activity as the focus of meditation makes us realize how thoughts arise from and disappear back into nothingness, unless we choose to get involved in any certain train of thought. This, in turn, makes us more compassionate because we learn that nature of our mind is the nature of the human mind, and we are all kinda crazy.

4. You have to go on and be crazy. Craziness is like heaven. ~ Jimi Hendrix

5. Take a vacation. Nothing like it for getting perspective on what’s important in our lives. If you can’t afford to go far, at least take a short trip. Travel someplace new and unknown. At the very least, lie in a hammock for a couple hours. It is better to travel well than to arrive. ~ Buddha

6.  Think before you speak. (Or write.)Pause. Consider how the person (or audience) to whom you are speaking may react to your words. It’s fine to be controversial and debate and express our opinions but we can intend to do so in an open-minded, considerate, respectful way. Lacing a comment with biting sarcasm or expletives, for example, makes it harsh and offensive to many. Practice wise speech. Make what you say honest, helpful and timely. I have often regretted my speech, but never my silence. ~ Publilius Syrus

7. Give your undivided attention. Really, just listening to someone who needs to communicate—listening attentively, without judging and with compassion—this is the best gift we can give another.

8. Know what you can let roll off your back. As a third grade teacher, I deal with a lot of kids tattling on each other. If the complaint seems trivial, I often say, “Can you ignore it?” And they usually say yes and move on with their lives.There are too many battles to be fought. Lighten up. Let go of all but the most essential battles. Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured. ~ Mark Twain

9. Focus on softening in yoga. And by yoga, I mean life. Soften your heart. Soften your voice. Soften your jaw. Soften your shoulders. Soften your gaze. Be softer and fluffier. More teddy bear, less grizzly beast.

10. Read the work of a kind, gentle, compassionate author.
Their words and teachings will inspire you on this path of kindness.

11. Laugh, a lot.

12. Don’t be a know-it-all.

13. Recall that we are all interconnected. We all share so much in common.When someone irritates you, take a breath and imagine that they (and every single human being on earth) are in your family… Because they are. And even if they’re not, we’re all human, aren’t we? We are all mammals with lungs and minds and hearts and bones. Let’s be kinder and gentler with our fellow beings.

And I love this song so I need to share it with you!!

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